For many years Decurion has offered its members a course called The Practice of Self-Management.  Over ten weeks, we explore readings and practices aimed at helping people develop three skill sets:  the ability to be more present, the ability to dissolve apparent barriers between ourselves and others, and the ability to make what is subject into object in order to reduce reactivity and to engender appropriate responses.  We think these skills enhance both personal development and business effectiveness.

During the course’s penultimate week, we address skillful speech.  We begin with some observations about listening.  Krishnamurti notes “if we try to listen we find it extraordinarily difficult because we are always projecting our opinions and ideas, our prejudices, our background, our inclinations, our impulses; when they dominate we hardly listen at all to what is being said” (from J. Krishnamurti, Talks and Dialogues).  Having spent many weeks working on being more present and on observing our constant internal dialogue, we attempt to create space for true listening. Read the full article…